surviving single motherhood

I love being a mom…

I love that smile I put on my daughters face just by walking in the room, the kisses she gives with so much excitement, the hugs with so much love in them, and the next minute she does something she wasn’t supposed to…

How can you say no to a precious child without guilt, how do you react when the baby has tantrum at a store or public place and people are staring at you, where you get the strength to get up the next day not knowing what you will have to face, what about just the regular day; how to do all?

Even though many people tell you: “Oh you will love it being a mom” …Yeah I do!!! But how come, no one tells you how to balance every part of it, especially doing that on your own. Especially with daddy that’s in and out the picture or not at all in it…

Motherhood it’s a great experience and you can't substitute with anything. We all know it’s a hard job, you are around them 24/7, but nobody ever tells you how hard it really is, you never get prepared for it. Not mentioning raising a baby on your own. No matter how many books you read, how many advices you hear, how many shows you see, none of them prepares you for motherhood.

If you do something right, no one appreciates, but if you make a small mistake everyone seems to have an opinion for it and keeps judging you. Will there ever be time that instead of judging people we help them get it right?

First, don't ever give up on you or your kids, and never blame them for what you go through. It won't change anything, it will just make you feel more down. I know its hard getting up in the morning, not knowing where your day will start, or these days there are many families that don't have much. Trust me, the most important thing you can have is by your side, your kids. Of course there are up and downs down the road, like everywhere, and yeah it's easy to say when you have job, roof over your head.

Try to look positively, don't buy new toys, try make crafts with anything you find at home, instead of spending money on entry fees to a local pool, turn sprinkles on. You can take turns with your neighbors so your yard won’t get soaked. If you have close friends, buy with them a membership to a zoo, split a cost in half (on one card will get in two adults and up to 4 kids). Check out local libraries, they have plenty of programs for kids and I’m sure you will find something to do there too.

Next, if you have a chance to leave your kids home safely, go out with friends. Don’t talk about kids for once, anything else its ok. Take time to get dress, from time to time you can manage to put nice cloths, make up and for sure take a shower…J

Don’t get drunk, but a little something will never hurt, unless you breastfeeding, then that’s a no no… Join local meet ups groups for moms and kids, you can find them at Craig list.com or http://www.raisingthem.com/ or you can research to see what you find.

Keep your head up, and don’t let anyone tell you that you are a failure!!!

I’m learning every day to be a good mom, and everything I struggle with I’m sure there are more like me moms that go through the same, I’ll try to post simple solutions for quick dinner for little ones, solutions from every day struggle (if I find one ) and more. Feel free to ask many questions and maybe all together we can make it through… Good luck to all moms and dads